Distance – Are we falling apart?

Distance – Are we falling apart? Long-distance relationships are hard. It is a crazy rollercoaster with thousands of ups and downs. But with the internet, it is easier, texting, calling, having video calls and overall social media can help you cope up with those crazy time zones and keep your relationship intact. But long-distance also tests your relationship and love in ways you cannot even imagine.

‘Distance is just a test to see how far love can travel.’

But things made can be broken too. Long-distance often involves human emotions like insecurity, jealousy, doubts, lack of physical touch, which can put your relationship in a frenzy.

What if they are cheating? Are we in for real? Are they falling out of love? Will it work? These questions often cross your mind and a slight change in behavior can create havoc with negative thoughts. So how to know if your long-distance partner is loyal to you?

Are they spending time with you?
If they are making time for you and winning to spend it with you, it is a big sign that they are serious about your relationship. Usually, as time passes, the time you spend with each other decreases, which can create doubts. If you are not sure whether they are willing to spend quality time with you, you can try not contacting them first. If they contact you, it is a sign they are serious about you.

Are you in their future plans?
Do they talk about their future with you or have long-term plans for your relationship? If yes then it is another sign that they are pretty serious about you. In case you are doubtful, you can mention the idea of moving in with them. If they are willing enough for your and their future and wanting to have you close with them, it is a sign to relax and love them hard.

‘Distance means so little when someone means so much’ – Tom McNeal

Are you both happy?
The most important and big part of being in a relationship is being happy. Going on for the sake of not hurting the other will not only lead to frustration but will also hurt your partner even more. If your partner is eager to talk with you and is happily in love with you, then it’s a green signal. But if they are secretive, unhappy, frustrated, then it is a sign to let go. No one should be forced to be in a relationship, otherwise, it will turn toxic.

Trust – A ticking emotion.
A healthy relationship is based on trust. Jealousy, doubt, regular fights, etc. cause a relationship to fall. It is important to trust your partner. But the key point is not to trust them blindly.

There are actions and practices which build trust. Spend time together, know each other, and develop trust over time. And if still, you aren’t able to trust them because of their doings, then it is not a healthy sign.

If they trust you and you trust them, they are willing to put that extra effort into your relationship so that it flourishes.

They share their concerns and feelings
The more open you are to your partner, the more comfortable you get with them. If they share the problems they are facing, their secrets, how they feel, their insecurities, their deepest fears, in all are open with you, then they trust you. Not everyone opens up quickly, it takes a lot of trust to tell someone something personal, but if they get comfortable with you, feel warmth, then they for sure trust you with their all. A relationship flowers when the two are comfortable with each other.

Excuses – A glint of doubt
It is normal for a partner to get busy with work and is unable to give you enough time. If you are on good talking terms, then it is obvious to know when they are free and when life and work act tough on them. But if they are really vague with reasons and create vague excuses, it is a sign to stop. They aren’t as serious as you are with the relationship.

Important dates
Remembering your birthday, anniversary and small details show how they adore you and how deeply invested they are in the relationship. It shows how much they care for you and how much you mean to them. But if they keep forgetting the valued dates, then it is a bad sign.

Surprises – Care and affection
Long-distance couples tend to miss each other a lot. If they frequently tell you that they miss you then don’t worry, they do. Surprising you with small gifts and messages, be it a good morning message or a bouquet of flowers. It shows that they put effort into your relationship, and it will bloom for sure. If they make it a point to visit you, or you visit them, it shows how much you mean to each other. So don’t worry, everything will fall into place.

In conclusion, there are different ways one can show love and affection, so it is okay if your partner takes time to open up. But if they show some signs which are not appreciative, it is okay to reach out to them and have a discussion. A thing should be kept in mind that even a small message is considered as taking a step forward. Long-distance relationships are really tender, they should be built with time, love, and effort.