True Love What Love Is and What it is Not!

Love is said to be the most beautiful feeling on this planet but is that all? Does this beautiful feeling help you become a better person? Does it help you achieve and work towards your goals? Does it de-route you from your final goal and destination? There are so many various questions that need to be answered – before one can say that they are ready for the four-letter word with the heaviest meaning on a person’s soul.

Love is no longer the chase and rush of your adrenalin after looking at a pretty face. It is that

feeling of being at home with everything that you have and yet has the urge to achieve every goal of your life with the person beside you. It is that feeling when you wish to see the world, exactly like you had always wanted to – but at the cost of two tickets! People in love don’t hide stuff from each other because they want them to share in your life- the good and the bad-and understand what you experience. When you have found the true love, you care about each other’s happiness and health and don’t try to hurt it any way. Love cares what

becomes of you, because love knows that we are all interconnected. It is compassionate and empathic.

It is a feeling of settling down. It is when you still have the most beautiful people around you and you admire them but still wishes to close the doors of your heart and be only with that beautiful person in your heart. It is a commitment for a lifetime – which does not feel like a burden at all. The moment it starts to feel like a burden, time is up!

People usually confuse love with infatuation. Infatuation is when you get instantly attracted to somebody and then develop into a habit or try too hard to turn the person into a habit and eventually move out of that feeling. Whereas, love is when you do not realize that two people have turned into a habit and are enjoying life together. It is when there is attraction as well as attachment. It is when you do not pretend to be anybody else and is completely at ease and out of all forms of pretenses is when you realize that you are in love!

Love can happen many times. You can fall in love as many times till you find the right one whom you’re most compatible with. We usually end up trying a number of chairs before actually finding the perfect chair for us. It is the same in today’s practical and rational age.

 It is no longer the beautiful and serene feeling of touch and playing footsie underneath the library table and waiting for hours to receive a message over yahoo messenger. It is instant and we all want it instantly – so it is okay to fail a couple of times in love. This way at least you know that you are capable of love and that you have a lot of love to give to the other person. When the time is right, you will find the love of your life – even when you are not

trying to look for your one beautiful epic love.

The cupid usually comes and hit you at times when you are not ready and not looking out. It is then that you find a friend, a companion and a beautiful relation. You wish to make yourself a better human, you would want to come back home to this person and feel at ease with him or her. It is a feeling to be cherished and not rushed into. Be sure about it. Love , like fine wine wine, takes time to bloom. But, if your heart gets broken- it is okay, you are going to get through this.

Remember it was a time worth your efforts and that you are taking back with a lot of memories, good times and learnings. It is these learning that keeps us going in today’s times and makes us a better human being.

One thing not to do ever is to leave your life and your aspirations and believes for that one person. A lot of times, we do not realize that we end up changing ourselves to become more a part of the partner’s life but that is not right. We take mutual steps to be able to fit into the other person’s life and habits but trust me, it feels all right for the time being and turns out to be a major drawback in the future. You not only lose yourself in the process you also end up losing a lot  many other things which you would not want to at any cost. It is always better to take baby steps and become friends and companion first to know if you are heading in the right direction instead of jumping into something. It saves a lot of unwanted heartache, drama, and issues in life. Love is positive , but fanatical ‘love’ can turn into a destructive force. In life, we need luck, and many times our luck changes, but we must always maintain our equilibrium. It is imperative that you are able to differentiate between the two to avoid wasting each other’s time. Love is indescribable but it’s beautiful.

So , this Valentine’s Day, let’s see if we can broaden our ideas of what love means. Let’s set our intention to open our hearts and pay attention , to ourselves and to those around us, with the quality of loving awareness.

One thing not to do ever is to leave your life and your aspirations and believes for that one person. A lot of times, we do not realize that we end up changing ourselves to become more a part of the partner’s life but that is not right. We take mutual steps to be able to fit into the other person’s life and habits but trust me, it feels all right for the time being and turns out to be a major drawback in the future. You not only lose yourself in the process you also end up losing a lot  many other things which you would not want to at any cost. It is always better to take baby steps and become friends and companion first to know if you are heading in the right direction instead of jumping into something. It saves a lot of unwanted heartache, drama, and issues in life. Love is positive , but fanatical ‘love’ can turn into a destructive force. In life, we need luck, and many times our luck changes, but we must always maintain our equilibrium. It is imperative that you are able to differentiate between the two to avoid wasting each other’s time. Love is indescribable but it’s beautiful.

So, this Valentine’s Day, let’s see if we can broaden our ideas of what love means. Let’s set our intention to open our hearts and pay attention , to ourselves and to those around us, with the quality of loving awareness.